I’ve grown up believing that one is either motivated by love or fear. Of course, we experience both in our lives, but I know I’m not a fear-based person. I believe I’m influenced by love and try to focus on the positive. It’s a daily exercise to keep one’s mind in that frame and not let the negativity around us, influence our mind and behavior. (Of course, a good cocktail of anti-depressants can fix that, right away.)
A new book by Kristen Ulmer, THE ART of FEAR (HarperWave) argues fear is misunderstood. That we often ignore it, push past it or somehow overcome it, in order to not deal with it. Ulmer believes that by acknowledging and embracing our fear, we can use it to our benefit and turn it into a positive force in our lives.
Kristin Ulmer knows fear really well. She was recognized as the best extreme skier in the world for twelve years, at which time she knew she could get incredibly injured or die every time she put on her skis. In her chit-chatty book, she argues that fear isn’t intended to cause us problems, that in fact, the only true issue we face with fear is our misguided reaction to it.
Ulmer starts her book by explaining why we’ve come to view fear as something negative. She gives us the tools to turn our thinking around making fear just one of the any other voices in our head. The tools she teaches explain how we can learn to live with fear in the same way we live with joy, love and gratitude. It’s all about a mindfulness tool she calls an attitude “shift.” This way, Ulmer says we can experience fear in a simpler, more authentic way, transforming our relationship with this emotion and living with our true nature, instead of letting it drain us.
Reading through her book, one learns it’s taken Kristen fifteen years as a mindset facilitator to come to this point. So if you’re thinking about trying this out, don’t expect results overnight. But I think anything that leads to a happier, healthier more expansive life is certainly worth giving a shot.
About Kristen Ulmer
Kristen Ulmer is a facilitator who draws from her tenure as the best woman extreme skier in the world for twelve years and from thousands of hours facilitating clients on the subject of fear. Her work has been featured on NPR and in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, Forbes, USA Today, Outside magazine, and many other publications. She lives in Salt Lake City, Utah.
aThanks to HarperWave and TLC Book Tours, we have one copy of THE ART OF FEAR to giveaway. Just tell us what you’re most fearful of. I’m petrified of fire – being in stuck in a hotel during a fire, leaving a candle burning unattended to, fireworks, really anything to do with fire. We’ll announce a winner next Friday. Have a great weekend.